Acknowledging our internalized sexism is only one step in joining the conversation. It can be seen as cloyingly brave when men speak up on certain issues because often our words are deemed enough without action. These are low expectations afforded to us by the languid maturity of masculinity. We have not earned these lowered expectations, but instead were brandished with them at birth. As men, we are allowed to spend our entire lives growing up. A 26 year old Kevin Spacey is a “boy,” and thus his actions are not his own. On the other hand, women are thought to mature faster, and thus are treated as grown women before they are old enough to make their own decisions.