What should we make of all of these findings? My initial reaction was dismay at the widespread existence of such sexism among other men. With time, though, I realized my mistake: I was focusing on other men when I am surely just as complicit. If the average man is sexist in these ways, the odds are that I am, too. In day-to-day life, I may not realize that I’m contributing to these problems, but neither, probably, do other men. So fixing these problems is my responsibility — and the responsibility of other men, too. We can help through introspection, by asking questions of those closest to us and by listening to the painful answers.