It is time to give men as much choice in how they want to balance care and career across their lives as we are trying to give women. This isn’t just about toxic masculinity, but the more conventional good-provider kind. We must begin with a radical shift in social norms, which, while it will not be enough, will be a necessary beginning and a step all of us can take in our daily lives.
Investment firm Aviva was the subject of swift backlash after tweeting about the problem of women facing a financial shortfall when people pointed out as of 2018 it paid its female employees 27 per cent less than their male peers. And it isn't the only company to use feminism to promote a product while failing to have its own house in order. KPMG ran a series of ads about shattering glass ceilings in 2015, but last year was sued for gender discrimination. Audi ran an ad about discrimination about girls, but had no women on the board,
Because girls experience socialisation which emphasises fitting in more in general, masking can often be more pronounced, making them more likely to evade diagnosis. “Women are taught to fit into situations. It isn’t acceptable for girls to be blunt,” Gassner says. Exploratory research into this camouflaging suggests that autistic women camouflage more than autistic men, that it is related to reduced wellbeing, and that it decreases as time passes after diagnosis.