Woke Daddy Ludo Gabriele writes, "There is no question that masculinity is at a crossroad. In that context, falling into the binary trap is easy and attractive...In that spirit I would like to address common misconceptions about masculinity that I believe to be harmful for everyone. This is my attempt to depolarize a conversation that craves nuance and mutual empathy."
When our fathers explained that crying was not for us, they did not do it to harm us. They did it because their fathers did. They did not question it. They genuinely believed that this was one of the best advices that they could give us to go out in the world. Why? Because in a world where, as men, we are constantly watching each other, our fathers wanted to build resilience inside us. Our fathers experienced before us the self-policing that goes on amongst men.